Thursday, January 20, 2011

Friendship

Friendship is something that everybody enjoys at least during some points in their lives. The ocean of life provides us with sets of friendships that roll in continually. The people we call friends come and go ebbing and flowing like the tides. The passing of time often changes the set of friends we have around during certain periods in our lives. Some people are lucky enough to have life long friendships that seem to withstand the test of time. These are the fortunates that most likely have not relocated as I have multiple times in my life. With every new opportunity, often a new set of friendships are made and, unfortunately, some are lost, simply a casualty of a new phase in life.

It doesn't necessarily need to be this way. They say that distance makes the heart grow fonder and I suppose this is true with certain friends. I for one am not especially good at staying in touch. It's the old out of sight out of mind scenario. I know that with today's technology we should be able to stay closer than ever before. Unfortunately, we have a tendency to be so tied up in the day to day routines of business and family life that our friends often take a back seat to spending quality time at our own households. Having said that, I'd like to take this opportunity to become better by being a better friend. So I'm going to try to do a better job of reaching out and just saying "Hi" to friends I haven't seen or heard from in years. I think the summer of 2010 was the first time I got onto Facebook. What a wonderful tool for finding and rekindling old relationships. It doesn't even matter if you're half way around the world, or just up the street. We can all afford the time it takes to log in and "poke" a few folks just to let them know you've been thinking of them.

I knew I was going to be writing about friendship today, so I decided to actually go down to my favorite watering hole and visit with a few friends that I haven't seen in awhile. It's hard to take the time to spend with friends when you have a lot of responsibilities, so it wouldn't make a lot of sense if I sat at home in my office and wrote this post about how great friendships are. If one of My friends from Tropics Lounge actually reads this post, do me a favor and hit the "Like" button would ya? At least that way I'll know there's actually someone out there who is taking the time to read this post as I bloviate et nauseum about friendship. I intend to be a better friend in 2011 and if you don't hear from me, let me know about it so I have a little accountability here. If you really want to live a life that's full, surround yourself with good friends and share in the experiences of the world.

Wednesday, January 19, 2011

Compassion

Whenever I think of compassion, my thoughts always turn to the greats like Mother Theresa or Father Damien. I ask myself if it's possible to have so much compassion that I could dedicate my whole life to a cause like they did. Their compassion was such that I believe they must have been sent from God. I believe we're all sent by God to fulfill some purpose, but through our own free will, we choose to become lesser men (or women). Trust me, I'm no saint, and I don't know whether I'll find my true purpose in life before I die or not, but at least I'm willing to examine my talents to try to find that which continues to elude me.

Becoming truly compassionate sounds easy, but it certainly is not. Even at Christmas time, arguably the most compassionate season of the year, I find myself getting so caught up in the commercialism that I drop the ball on all of the remarkable things I was planning on doing for others this year. Oh sure, I give my spare change to the guy outside the department store ringing a bell with his red kettle. I might even offer up a five or ten spot for a homeless man to get himself a decent meal. But these few and far between acts of kindness do not represent compassion at the level that Mother Theresa and Father Damien possessed. They gave of themselves 24/7/365 and never with a thought or a care that they were going to be repaid somehow. There's a saying that gets tossed around quite a bit at Dream Outfitters that I'd like to think we all try to live our lives by, and it is simply this, “Do Something For Someone Today, With The KNOWING That There Is No Possible Way For Them To Ever Repay You.”

We all try to be as good as we possibly can (well, most of us), and while we may never reach the level of perfection of a true saint, we can live a better life today than we did yesterday. We can live better lives by becoming more compassionate to the plight of others. Others less fortunate whom we come across during the course of our day. Merriam-Webster defines compassion as the sympathetic consciousness of others' distress together with a desire to alleviate it. The key here is the last part, the desire to alleviate it. It's great that we feel compassionate, but even greater when we can actually participate, in a small way, to relieve the pain that we witness. Pain and suffering and loneliness is all around us. It doesn't take much to toss someone a smile instead of just hurrying on our way. That costs nothing. Let's all try to be a little more compassionte this year than we have in the past. I know you will become a better person for it.

Tuesday, January 18, 2011

Truth

We as internet users are being inundated with information like never before. With this comes the need to be able discern what is true and what leaves a little to be desired in the truth department. If you're well informed, the truth is usually pretty easy to discern. It has a certain feeling associated with it, it sounds better than falsehood. This is why they say that some things "ring true" where as other things don't. In order to become our best, we want to come from a place of truth; through our speech and through our actions.

They say that the truth shall set you free, and I believe this; truly I do. Judge Judy has a great phrase that she tells her courtroom parties when she senses that what they're telling her may not be 100% based in fact. She says, "If you tell the truth, you don't have to have a good memory." What she's saying is that when we only go on the facts, we don't have to worry about keeping our story straight while trying to manufacture a tale that "sounds good." This is liberating, because all you need to do in life is simply recall what actually took place instead of trying to "spin" or bend the truth to put our side in the best light. If our case isn't strong enough based on the merits, then it probably isn't really going to stand up anyhow.

The best thing about the truth, is that it is what it is. Winston Churchill has a couple of quotes (probably more) about truth. He states, "The truth is incontrovertible, malice may attack it, ignorance may deride it, but in the end; there it is." This alludes to the ultimate resilience of truth. If you make truth the cornerstone of your moral fibre, it makes the rest of life's principles all that much easier to follow through on. Churchill also warns us that, "Men occasionally stumble over the truth, but most of them pick themselves up and hurry off as if nothing had happened." This is a warning to not fall into the trap where many people find themselves. Honesty has seemingly become so irrelevant, that people don't even realize that duplicity has become embedded in their moral fibre. They simply gloss over the facts and continue right on living without paying any heed.

There's a good possibility that I've butchered Winston's original meaning here (especially with respect to the latter). But truth be told, that is what the essesnce of the quote is saying to me. Perhaps it's time for us all to take a look around and give the information we're being bombarded with a litmus test. Does it sound right? If it doesn't sound right, it probably isn't true.

Monday, January 17, 2011

Courage and Faith

Today we celebrate the life of Nobel Peace Prize Laureate Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.. I'd like to encourage you to watch the video of his "I Have a Dream" speech given on August 28th, 1963 from the steps of the Lincoln Memorial during the March on Washington for Jobs and Freedom; especially if you are taking a paid holiday today. Spend 20 minutes to remember the man who's life was sacrificed in pursuit of racial equality. Listen to his words, let them reverberate in your mind, and then spend a moment of silence to reflect on the courage and faith he demonstrated to the world during his short lifetime.



It was Abraham Lincoln who said, "You cannot build character and courage by taking away a man's initiative and independence." So it was poignant that Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. would deliver his Swan Song on the steps of Lincoln's memorial on the west side of the National Mall in Washington D.C.. His courage, shown in the face of great discrimination, has earned him a place in eternity as one of the greatest men in U.S. history. Time Magazine named him the 1963 "Man of the Year" for his continued efforts in the Civil Rights Movement.

Martin Luther King was a man of deep faith and was pastor of the Dexter Avenue Baptist Church in Montgomery, Alabama. His dedication to God and to the unalienable rights of all men shone brightly as a beacon of hope for African Americans and countless others all over the world. On the evening of April 4, 1968, while standing on the balcony of his motel room in Memphis, Tennessee, where he was to lead a protest march in sympathy with striking garbage workers of that city, he was assassinated. I salute Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. for his faith, his courage and for furthering the civil rights movement during an extremely turbulent time in this nation's history.

Saturday, January 15, 2011

Faith, Hope and Charity

This week, I've been writing about Glenn Beck's E4 Solution to Restore American Exceptionalism. My hope is that my readers will be able to glean a little wisdom from these posts and apply it to their own lives. Enlightenment, Education, Empowerment and Entrepreneurship are the keys to rebuilding our nation from the inside out. It all starts with the individual. We as human beings don't possess the power to change others, but we can change ourselves and in turn, have an affect on those around us.

Glenn also talks a lot about Faith, Hope and Charity. Three core attributes that I apply in my own life to be a better person. Have faith in your own convictions. Faith isn't reserved only for God or religion. Have faith in yourself, have faith in those around you and have faith in all that you do such that you become unstoppable. Faith truly can move mountains.

Hope springs eternal isn't just a catchy phrase, it's from Alexander Pope's "Essay on Man" written in 1734. If you haven't read it, I suggest you try and get through it. It is truly a beautifully constructed piece of poetry concerned with the natural order God has decreed for man. Because man cannot know God's purposes, he cannot complain about his position in the Great Chain of Being and must accept that "Whatever IS, is RIGHT."

And finally, Charity; or what I like to call "giving back." Reflect on all that you possess and realize that whatever your current situation, there are still others that are worse off. Be charitible and give to those less fortunate, or give to those who help the less fortunate because without charity mankind cannot hope to rise above. I'll leave you with this from Psalms 41:1-2...

”Blessed is he who considers the poor; The LORD will deliver him in time of trouble. The LORD will preserve him and keep him alive, And he will be blessed on the earth.”

Friday, January 14, 2011

Entrepreneurship

They say that some people have it and some people don't when it comes to being an entrepreneur, and I guess that's true to a certain extent. However, that doesn't mean that people cannot learn to become entrepreneurs. To me, being an entrepreneur is more of a mindset than anything else. Therefore, you don't need to be born with it, you can become an entrepreneur, but only if you really want to. I actually took a course in entrepreneurship at Hawaii Pacific University back in 2004 or 2005 (the exact dates escape me). While I wasn't technically enrolled at HPU, I auditted the class that was being taught by one of my many mentors. A man I still admire to this day. The course taught me that beyond being a mindset, entrepreneurship was also a process.

I mention the course here because I want to share a little quiz that comes straight out of the text book (so I don't have any problems with copyright infringement, I'll credit the books authors). The book, entitled Entrepreneurship: A Process Perspective, was written by Robert A.Baron and Scott A. Shane. See how well you fair on these eight questions:

1. Can You Handle Uncertainty?
Is security (e.g., a regular paycheck) important to you, or are you willing to live with uncertainty -- economic and otherwise?

2. Are You Energetic?
Do you have the vigor and good health required to work very long hours for long periods of time in order to reach goals that are important to you?

3. Do You Believe in Yourself and Your Abilities?
Do you believe that you can accomplish whatever you set out to accomplish, learning what you need along the way?

4. Can You Handle Reversals and Failures Well?
How do you react to negative outcomes -- with discouragement or with renewed commitment to succeeding the next time around and learning from your mistakes?

5. Are You Passionate About Your Goals or Vision?
Once you establish a goal or a vision of where you want to be, are you willing to sacrifice almost everything else to get there, because you are truly passionate about doing so?

6. Are You Good with Other People?
Can you persuade them to see the world the way you do? Can you get along with them well (e.g., handle conflicts, build trust)?

7. Are You Adaptable?
Can you make "mid-course corrections" easily? For instance, can you admit that you made a mistake and reverse course to correct it?

8. Are You Willing to Take Risks or Leaps of Faith?
Once you establish a goal, are you willing to take reasonable risks to reach it? In other words, are you willing to do what you can to minimize the risks, but then, once you have done so, proceed?

Current evidence suggests that successful entrepreneurs are high on all of these dimensions -- higher than other persons. They handle uncertainty, are energetic, believe in themselves, react well and flexibly to reversals, are passionate about their beliefs, are good with other people, are highly adaptable, and are willing to accept reasonable levels of risk. To the extent you possess these characteristics -- or at least most or them -- you may be well-suited for the role of entrepreneur. If you find that you are relatively low on several of these characteristics, however, you might want to reconsider, perhaps becoming an entrepreneur is not really "your particular cup of tea."

Having said that, it is still possible to overcome any entrepreneurial shortcomings that you may possess, as long as you have a burning desire to improve yourself in these areas. Thus, it is possible to change your personality profile to fit the entrepreneurial model. I have a neat little book on marketing and advertising called It's Not How Good You Are, But How Good You Want To Be, by Paul Arden. It's a super fast read that can be read in under an hour. This book shows you that your current state of affairs isn't as important as the direction you are going and the goals that you've set. Think from the end, and if you really want to, you too can become an entrepreneur.

During the 1990's, large U.S. corporations downsized more than 6 million jobs out of existence, yet unemployment fell to record-low levels, mainly as a result of new companies started by entrepreneurs and the dot.com bubble. At the turn of the century, there were more than 10 million self-employed individuals in the United States of America (which was about 1 in every 8 adults). Now, however, we're facing almost record-high unemployment figures (I believe the figure peaked at 9.8% at the end of last year). This means that there are a staggering number of people in the U.S. that are looking for work of some kind. I want to pose this question to the millions who are out of work at this time, "Do you really want to take a job and exchange your time for money, or would you rather create a life and have the freedom to pursue your happiness while making an honest living?" Become an entrepreneur and free yourself from the chains that bind you to a job. Is it easy? Definitely not. But the rewards far outway the sacrifices, once you realize your dream and start living again.

Even if you have a job and a career, are you truly satisfied with all that it provides for you and your family? Take control of your financial future and start a small business on the side. You may be surprised to see your newfound part-time income exceed your full-time income by leaps and bounds. It all boils down to desire, belief and work ethic. So I close with this question, Do you have what it takes to become an entrepreneur?

Thursday, January 13, 2011

Empowerment

Dream Outfitters' core concept is based on empowerment. So I've been looking forward to today's post since Monday with great anticipation. The key force behind empowerment is readiness. Look back in your own life and think about a time that you felt truly empowered; maybe it was a feeling you had just before a math quiz, a spelling bee or the big game. You felt this empowerment most likely because you had prepared for it and you were confident that you would be absolutely unstoppable. Life is a continual process of getting ready; and when we're truly ready for something, we feel empowered. So ready or not, here we go.

During the first 25% of our lives, we find ourselves emmersed in a structured environment with its foundation based on readiness. We spend our infancy getting ready to walk and talk, as a toddler or very young child, our parents get us ready to enter the school system to begin our journey in education (yesterday's topic). In kindergarten, we are getting ready for entering the first grade, and in first grade we're getting ready for 2nd grade and so on. All of our years in elementary school culminate in getting us ready for middle school. Middle school is spent preparing for high school and in high shool we're getting ready to enter the "real world" or maybe, if we're lucky, to go to college. But after that, then what?

Well, if you're really attuned to the world of academia, you may choose to stay in school for some length of time after gradusating, getting advanced degrees, doctorates and the like. But if you're like most of us, after your formal education is completed, you're thrust out into the world with not much more than your diploma or degree and a lot of ambition. You feel empowered, because you've learned so much in school, but the real world can still be a pretty scary place. It doesn't take long for that feeling of empowerment to fade when faced with the prospect of landing a job. Especially in today's economy. The competition for decent living wage situations id fierce. You really have to be a sharp cookie to gain and maintain a full-time job. That's where Dream Outfitters come in.

At Dream Outfitters, we say that having a job is not the way to financial freedom. In fact we say that having a job is simply an acronym; JOB stands for Just Over Broke. The days of going to school and getting good grades to get into a good college and working for a good company until retirement age are but a distant memory of yesteryear. Once upon a time, employees were loyal to the companies they worked for and in return, the companies treated employees with a great deal of respect and that loyalty was rewarded with a great retirement package and a gold watch when you left the work force in your golden years. Now it seems that corporations are more interested in the shareholders than they are in the people that make their business function on a daily basis. Employees are now more like commodities than human beings. The focus is now on the bottom line. But who's looking out for you? The answer is nobody. You need to look after yourself. Dream Outfitters wants you to feel empowered once more. So let me tell you how we are empowering thousands of people, just like you, to take control of their financial futures and arm themselves with their very own golden parachute, God knows, your employer isn't going to provide you with one.

Remember that feeling of empowerment I talked about in the intro? That feeling of readiness? The process of getting ready doesn't need to end after we leave school. In fact, I'm still preparing for new and exciting activities that I want to explore. I prepare by gaining knowledge through education. Dream Outfitters has that. Then I further prepare by putting systems in place and using the right set of tools to make my dream possible, we have those too. Once you've gained the knowledge and implemented the correct systems and tools, you're ready to take on the world of online marketing. I believe that the internet is the last great frontier and the beauty of the internet is that it is truly infinite. The real estate stretches on and on and never ends. There's always room for another great offering. So you never need to feel trapped, or restricted.

We will provide you with continuing education, along with a system and all the tools you need. All you need is desire and the willingness to work toward your own self-determined goals. We'll even welcome you into our community of like minded people that you can network with, discuss ideas, and a variety of business strategies. All of the resources you're going to find are what Jay Kubassek (founder of CarbonCopyPRO) likes to call an incubator for entrepreneurs, which leads nicely into tomorrow's topic: Entrepreneurship.